Sixty years ago if you were of marrying age, you’d most likely select someone based on how your parents felt about it; how healthy the person appeared to be; how good/moral their character appeared to be; and how stable their economic resources appeared to be. These are the types of questions and answers we consider when we study dating and mate selection.
Now of those, how many would you be attracted to as a date and how many can you tell just by watching them that you’d probably never date?
My wife now has her Bachelors’ degree and is shopping for her Masters.
Higher education is a theme that emerged within our life experiences and has spilled over into our children’s’ lives now with 3 in college at this time.
All of the principles discussed in this chapter applied to how my wife and I met, became friends, and chose to marry. Propenquity is the geographic closeness experienced by potential dates and mates.
It’s the proximity you might experience by: living in the same dorms or apartment buildings; going to the same university or college; working in the same place of employment; or belonging to the same religious group.
I often ask my students how they met and when they tell their stories I help them to identify the geography that was involved in the process.
Physical appearance is subjective and is defined differently for each individual.
Figure 1 shows the basic date and mate selection principles that play into our filtering processes (This inverted pyramid metaphorically represents a filter that a liquid might be poured through to refine it; IE: coffee filter).
These include slightly above average desirable traits and symmetry in facial features.
According to the Centers for Disease Control the average man in the United States is 5 foot 10 inches tall and weighs about 177 pounds.
To help you better understand this let’s learn a few key principles that apply to the realistic processes we use to date and mate select.
When we see people we filter them as either being in or out of our pool of eligibles. We might include some because of tattoos and piercing or exclude some for the exact same physical traits.